Jan McArthur passed away this morning

[Jim McArthur]

Thanks, RR. She passed away six weeks ago today.

Might have been yesterday, for as bad as I still feel about it.

Jim

[cleefurd]

Thanks, RR. She passed away six weeks ago today.

Might have been yesterday, for as bad as I still feel about it.

Jim

Jim,

Had it not been for your loss, I might not have registered.
I would offer this;

It will always hurt, occasionally it will occur to you that it hurts less somehow, slowly the pain will subside, replaced by the warmth of knowing she was once there... then a bit of pain for a moment as you recall she is not. A cycle which can not be broken, but neither can the eternal joy you brought each other, which can never be taken from either of you.

I lost my wife and unborn daughter in March '04. Would have been my first child, whom we already adored. Still priceless.

At 6 weeks out I feared I might not survive the agony....
...then one day from a song I had never before heard, nor since, flowed these lyrics that gave me hope, which proved prophetic;

"I don't know if I'm better... or just learning to deal with the pain"

The latter seems more likely, representing a facet of how the human spirit may triumph.

I wish you the best, and believe me when I say, "I am praying for your heart to be strong"

Kip