Advice please

[cookie]

Hi Guy's I know this isn't the right section, but my good friends hang out here, so please forgive me.

As some of you already know, earlier this week my wife left me for another man. Yes it hurts like hell, but i still have two children to look after and am trying to keep life as normal as i can for them.

The reason for my post is, I would like advice from folks in a similiar situation, or those who know how the system works, to find out what benefits i'm entitled to if any. I get child allowance and Tax credit who i will be contacting to let them know the situation. but what else is out the to help me out.

Thank you for any help you can provide, I'm not at my best at the moment and won't be online that often, so i'm sorry if i don't reply to posts straight away

Jason

[Paul55]

I am so sorry to hear this mate. I can't offer you any help, but if you feel the need to talk, rant, wail please contact me. I'll send you my numbers on a PM.

Take care.

Paul

[mickson]

http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/index.htm sorry to hear your bad news mate, looked up this website which seems to cover all gov agencies Atvb ...mike...

[MikeB]

Jeez Jase, you're not having a good year buddy, I'm really sorry to hear that this has happened to one of the good guys. And the poor kids, their world must be torn apart with all of this, bless them!

Sorry I can't help with your questions, but you have all my contact details if you want to chat anytime, fella.

My thoughts are with you.

[Gun Collector]

Find the address of your nearest Citizens Advice Bureau and phone or pop along to see an advisor - Ours has a drop in surgery where you just go along and are seen there and then but that might not apply everywhere.

Try to gather as much info about your predicament... income/ expense, rent, council tax etc. as you feel might be relevant. The CAB have a huge database covering ALL the subjects you are likely to be concerned about at the moment and will be able to advise, and if necessary, assist you to procure whatever services and benefits you may be entitled to or require.

HTH

[cookie]

Cheer's Guys, a couple of good starting points.

Just to let you guy's know that my 2 lovely children are little stars, and are dealing with this a lot better than i am, they are already taking everything in there stride, and are fine about Mummy coming and going. How do kids do it.

Thanks again

Jason

[jagxkrs]

Jase sorry to hear that mate as said CAB is probably your best call, Benefits office won't tell you bugger all about what your entitled to you have to tell them

[Spike]

I can't help Jason, but best wishes for you and your children.

[Garry]

Sorry I didn't notice this earlier Jason. My then missus left me 22 years ago, and I know what you must be feeling like, but you'll get through it all eventually. You've got the kids there to keep you going as well. It'll get better one day, but I know it won't feel like it at the moment.

ATB
Garry

[cookie]

Cheer's guy's, i will be getting on to CAB, hopefully i will be entitled to something, every little helps.

thanks again

Jason

[tigman]

damn, sorry to read this

best place to look is here

http://www.turn2us.org.uk/benefits_search.aspx - accurate to within a few quid either side

[cookie]

Hi Tigman, thanks for that very helpfull.

Things are looking up.

[Rayee]

would dropping into a benefits office be a good idea?

[tigman]

Hi Tigman, thanks for that very helpfull.

Things are looking up.

no problem, hope things are looking up for you now, dont forget the child support agency (or what ever they are called now)

[PaulR]

I can add no more than has already been posted other than to say, like others I have been there too albeit, like a previous poster, over 20 years ago.

It DOES get better believe me - your life does come back and, more importantly, your concern for your children will ensure you give them the stability they need at this emotionally devastating time. In the same way you will find you gain comfort from their reaction to you.

It is all raw now but, rest assured, even comparative strangers like me, are prepared to listen.

Good Luck,

Paul.