Hello and welcome Lady Jan McArthur, you are offically our 2nd female Member, and our 38th Member so welcome to the gang. (quick get out while you can )
Nice Shopping list of pistols there Jan, I would personally go for the Smith & Wesson 586/686 either 6" barrel or if Jim is buying it for your Birthday in September go for the 3 Barrel case set
They are a good bunch on here, they can be full of information and tips, sum very handy, some you wish you never asked the question in the first place
Mostly we just want to have a bit of fun, and enjoy our shooting.
Happy Shooting (Jim you better start saving this is going to cost you)
Jason